Having a baby is not only for mamas. The entire family is affected. Sure, mama is the one giving birth with her body. Yes, she has major physical (structural and hormonal) changes that require rest and recovery. But what about partners and other children? They certainly can't be left out of the equation.
It's hard. A mama and baby NEED time to rest, recover, and heal from the birth experience. They need time to bond and get to know each other intimately. But what about mama's partner? They are experiencing a postpartum life too. For the duration of the pregnancy, mama's partner has been there, experienced the ups and downs with her. They've likely (though not always) been present for the birth of the baby. They have experienced the physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion that comes with labor and delivery. Mama's partner desperately needs rest, recovery, and healing too. They need to bond with this little one intimately.
Then what if there are other children at home? What if they don't have the reasoning capacity yet to fully understand the change that is A NEW BABY? Grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends- everyone needs time to adjust to this new, tiny, wonderful person.
There are additional challenges that come with this period too. Everyone's roles shift a bit: mama needs to stay in bed; mama's partner needs some time in bed too but also might feel the primal need to protect and provide; an older child probably experiences a massive array of emotions and has to figure out how to live with this complexity (my oh my how this is tough on everyone).
I'm really just painting a very broad overview of what's happening in my own home now but I have a feeling that there are universal needs for all postpartum families. My point is this: honor the transition of postpartum for everyone. This is not a time ONLY for mama and baby. A new baby is a challenge for every single person involved, Patience and love (and many, many deep breaths then many, many more) can be the best guidance.
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