I'm not going to lie: taking care of yourself is a lot of work. Add in some kids, social obligations (hello, marriage work!), a job, a grownup life that needs navigating and there's not a whole lot of time and energy for self-care. Especially if you experience even an ounce of mom guilt. I mean, babies, partners, jobs, and life require attention and skillful handling if we want them to be happy and thriving. And that takes a lot of our energy! There tends to not be enough time or oomph left at the end of the day for mama care.
But let's reframe this and make it super accessible. It won't be easy to shift your focus and it will be even tougher to put it into practice. But if you are a mama then you've probably managed to implement a tricky thing or two, right?
I grew up watching my own mama take care of herself beautifully. I watched her skillfully get ready in the mornings, eat breakfast consciously, and had to deal with being quiet when she took her Sunday afternoon naps. Did I ever feel neglected and pissed in the moments when she put herself first? Sure. But, being a kid, I was pretty immature. I wanted ALL OF HER ATTENTION!!!! I seemed to survive, though, and actually managed to get through my teen years without major body image issues or much of the "classic" adolescent self-loathing that we are expected to have. i was raised by a woman who filled her cup and had the energy to enjoy the beautiful things in life - she personified beauty right before my very eyes!
I watched my mama take care of herself and that naturally rubbed off on me: taking care of The Self is vital if we want to thrive in this life. We are given this singular vessel (the body) for only short a lifetime - we are pretty much Divinely required to care for it and love it, even if that means telling the kids, partner, job, and cultural expectations to hang on a sec.
Ok. So HOW to actually implement this theory???
Yoga Teacher. Thinker of things.
Sometimes I just need to empty the contents of my brain into words.